I GIVE UP ON US

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When you walk away, that doesn't mean that you did not give enough. It can also mean that it is too much for you to handle. Too much pain which is more hurting when you know you don't deserve it. Too much work, which is more tedious especially if you are the only one working for the relationship. Too much suffering, which is more deadly, especially when you know you ought something better. Too much demand for patience, which is more exhausting, especially when the tolerance you are giving were always gain no importance. Too much chances, which is more upsetting especially when they were always put to waste. Too much self sacrificing, which is more depriving, especially when it is already stepping on your self worth. 

Love is not just about saying it then taking the person for granted. It is not just feeling it, then doing what you like inconsiderate of what he feels. It is not just about washing his clothes, then ignoring his emotions. It is not just about fighting for him, then making him feel that he is always the last on your list. It is not just going home to him then making him feel that your mind is somewhere else. It is not just about sharing what you feel to him then you never listen.

You text and reply to your friends but you almost never texting him. You can text to other people whatever you are doing and wherever you are, but you always tell him that you don't have time and chance to text him. You laugh and smile with your friends but you are always angry and quiet when you're with him. You keep your promise to other people but always breaking then to him. You always try to understand your friends even if it hurts you but you are never understanding to him. You are willing to spend time, money and effort for other people but you are always reasons and "I cant" to him. You are the kindest and nicest person to other people but you are very rude to him. You don't want to see your friends crying, but you don't care if you will leave him weeping. You are putting your best foot forward for other people, but you are your worst to him.

Some people say that you should never give up if you love each other. Fight for it, for you are very fortunate that you are fighting for something, because other people are looking for that love to fight for. It is very different when you are there, when you are almost dying just to fight for that love, because the person who loves you is not even willing to do something for you, for that love. It is degrading, consuming and depressing that you are accepting that person's imperfections and sacrificing everything but that person is not willing to do anything for you. You are doing everything to solve and talk for the problems arising in your relationship, but the person doesn't want to talk about anything, never listening and always walking away.

It is not always the best that you are fighting for something. It is the best if that something that you are fighting for is worth it. Loving someone and being loved is definitely the best feeling in the world, but the reality is, loving is not just the feeling, loving is also about working for that feeling. Some people really feel love, but they don't actually know how to work for it, fight for it, give importance to it, to stay to it and to deserve it. Some people are too secured on their lovers, that because their lovers were always there, they take them for granted, they hurt them, they ignore them and commit many mistakes, they become selfish, they trash chances, they become inconsiderate and self centered, commit infidelity and many similar things.  It is really hard to give up, especially when it is about giving up to someone you love and cant live a day without, and the hardest when you know that that someone love's you back. But, sometimes, you need to give up even if the pain and longing kills you, because it is the best thing to do, not just for you, but for the both of you. Never give up on a relationship? But is giving up to a relationship that gives you to much pain, erasing your self worth and eating your whole being still unreasonable?

Accepting someone's imperfection is not very hard, especially if we really love the person. What is the hardest is the fact that that person's imperfection is causing you too much pain. But what is harder than that, is that the person you believe that loves you, is not willing to do anything to prevent that pain that he is causing you. There are this thing called incompatibility, and this can definitely be endured, especially if both of you are willing to work for it. But, nothing will happen, if one is willing and the other is doing nothing. Love will definitely will happen but it will never last for that. 

I know love is not all happiness, it will also harvest pain. But love is also not all pain, because someone who loves deserves happiness.

Giving up on a relationship means it is too much, that the pain of moving on from someone you love is more bearable than fighting for someone who puts all the burden and pain on your back!

Sometimes, love is really aint enough!